Encouraging Empathy and Understanding- Being the mom of THAT child

I read a post some time ago by woman speaking of her child becoming THAT child and it touched a point because I was the mom of THAT child, I have often spoken about the boys trials and how far we have come but very seldom to I get to vent about the treatment these kids are subjected to….

I was the mom of THAT child…

You know THAT child, the child who is always in trouble, the child who struggles to concentrate, sit still and pay attention.

The child who is shunned by other kids because their parents have told them to stay away or they just don’t want to be where the trouble is… I was the mom of the child who sat alone at break times and who came home in tears EVERY day, the mom of the child who called themselves stupid and would ask why nobody liked him or wanted to be his friend, why his teachers ignored him or told him he was bad all the time and would blame them even if they were not in the room at the time….

I have had a parent verbally assaulted me with a baby in my arms, I have received threats and nasty phone calls, Loghan has been threatened and pushed around by ADULTS, he has been told that he is a bad child a bad influence that nobody likes him by ADULTS!!!!!!!

Being the mom of an adhd child is hard being the child who has ADHD even more so

I remember when Loghan was about 18 months old I started to notice that his behaviour was somewhat different to the other kids of his age, he was my first child and I really didn’t know any better so I took it as a sign that he was just a really active inquisitive boy and that as he got older he would learn to control certain actions and reactions.

Patience and Understanding... from one mom to another

My, he is busy- oh my, they are spirited aren’t they… this seems to be the mommy polite version of… my kids don’t behave like that or holy moly; how do you survive…

The ladies who do this think the moms on the receiving end don’t get the hint of sarcasm that our children must just be naughty or ill disciplined, that their children are precious angels who can do no wrong- I have watched these sweet innocents on the playground and they are not always what they seem to be-  I have seen them trip kids, tease kids and bully kids… as soon as the child complains they are pictures of innocence and have done nothing wrong …. The other child must have done something to provoke them etc

That aside every now and then you find a mom to connect with, a mom who looks just as tired and highly strung as you do, one who turns to look at you with a shrug and a smile when their child is pushed because they know they are just kids being kids and 2 seconds later the roles are reversed her child pushes mine and then they are best friends for the remainder of their play…..

Oppositional Defiancy Disorder

A week ago I posted an update regarding Gabriel and that he has been diagnosed with ODD now while I was both horrified and saddened by this diagnosis due to all the doom and gloom painted on the internet I decided to put together some information for those interested in knowing what it is and what it entails….