So I finally have a minute to sit down and write a post, its been a while I just don't have much time to sit down and put pen to paper so to speak these days, I've wondered for some time now whether I should hang up the towel with regards to this space but this space has seen me through so many ups and downs and looking back on past posts reminds me of just how far we have come and how much things have changed.
I think I that aside from finding the time I have just struggled with how to use this space effectively, with the boys getting older I no longer see myself as a mommy blogger but I still want to document and share our journey as a special needs family, if something I share helps even one mom or family out there then this space has served its purpose and so here we are.
A lot has happened as I sit here now I am once again confined to our home along with my hubby and two of our llama monkeys due to covid, thankfully we are all well and covid free but Gabriel attended a family event with his father and unfortunately as careful as the were and that respect I can guarantee my ex is quite hectic, someone who attended tested positive and thus we are locked down for 10 days at home, I have to say its actually been great in the respect of spending time with my the boys and my hubby, its been peaceful for the most part and I was starting to feel a bit overwhelmed with so much going on.
I've changed job positions at work which was a big deal after sitting on reception for 9 years, not that there is anything wrong with that at all I had just reached a point where I needed a change and was thankfully afforded the opportunity to incite that change. I am also in the process of studying- which as a whole as an adult I can say is a whole different ball game; finding the time to study when you are working full time and have 3 kids and a household to raise isn't easy and the direction I have gone in now with my studies is so incredibly different from the direction I ever thought I would go in- quite honestly at the time I saw it more as a necessity than a field I wanted to fall into but now I am really enjoying it, crossing fingers, toes and eyes for my exam at month end =)
The boys are doing well therapies with both Gabriel and Loghan are going well and Gabriel's psychologist has confirmed that Gabriel does indeed have ASD behaviors and traits that if he were more extensively evaluated will more than likely lead to an ASD diagnosis, for now we are not pursuing a more extensive assessment but it is a big help as far as helping us to parent and guide Gabriel in a more effective and supportive manner, at the end of the day I feel that a 4 grand assessment for a label is not going to do anything more for us or Gabriel at this point, we knew that this was most likely going to be the outcome and it helps us and his teachers help him we don't need a paper confirmation for that, at least not at this stage.
Loghan is making big strides and we rarely have an issue at home as far as extreme meltdowns and behaviors are concerned, he is doing well in (controlled/supervised) social settings and we have had success with the education department, its taken 3 years but I finally found someone at the department who has put in so much time and support to help us that we are in the process of enrolling Loghan in a school (online) with a facilitator and his overall therapy is doing really well.
So as a whole things are going well, it really is great to be at a point where our steps forward amount to more than our steps backward, that is not to say that there won't be anymore bumps in the road but I feel that we are at a better place than we have been in years and that we have finally reached a point where people are actually listening and helping instead of ignoring and waving us off like we don't know what we are doing or talking about, it makes a huge difference for all of us and our overall mental and emotional states and although trying to fit in up to 4 therapy sessions in a week has been exhausting I know it will be worth it in the long run.
I guess that is it for now but I will pop in and update when we have more news to share- good or bad.