When I fell pregnant with Loghan
the only 2 things I wanted for my birth was a c section and then to room in
with my baby and even though I ended up with a c section it was an emergency c
section due to prem birth and I didn’t get to room in with Loghan as he was
rushed off to NICU just after he was born, it was extremely heart-breaking for
me as I was told in order to successfully bond and breastfeed I needed to keep
baby on me as much as possible and of course he was my baby and I wanted him
with me it was only natural, I managed to breastfeed successfully thankfully
and it did not affect my bond with Loghan but I do think it would have made
things much easier and would have made such beautiful memories.
When I fell pregnant with Gabriel
my goals were the same and for one glorious day I got to have him with me in
the maternity ward, he slept on my chest he fed and it was wonderful, until on
day two when he was taken off to NICU as he picked up an infection post birth,
I cried like a baby as I held my breast pump in my hands to the point that a
very lovely tea lady came to sit beside me and offer some words of comfort, I
cannot explain how much she did for me with just a few words I went from
depressed to determined.
Jesse unfortunately also ended up
in NICU so again I was denied the opportunity of rooming in with my baby but
with him I went in determined that if anything should happen I would not let it
bring me down…
That brings us to the title of
this post and the subject of nurseries in hospitals, now as I said I really
wanted to room in with my babies and having Gabriel even for that one day was
just wonderful and I will always cherish that memory, if my babies had not
ended up in NICU I would have happily kept them with me at all times as I
personally felt that A- they were my babies they belonged with me and after
leaving the hospital I would not have the nurses around to help or take baby so
I could get some sleep, I also felt that with regards to breastfeeding there is
a greater chance of success if baby is kept on or close to you as much as
possible in the first weeks following birth, also having baby with you left
less chance of a formula top up giving by a nurse who didn’t want to wake you.
I know there are moms out there
who love the idea and made use of their hospital nurseries and honestly I think
that you should be given the opportunity to a point, birth can be very
traumatic, a woman who has been in labour for days without sleep or a woman who
is having trouble post a c section may be better off taking a nap before taking
on full care of her baby, every mom and baby is different and I feel that that
the moms state of mind is crucial for babies care especially in the beginning
where everything is new and especially for first time moms.
I had a wonderful time post c
section I didn’t feel groggy and I couldn’t wait to get up and move around but
I have one friend who had a terrible time and who was snarked at and ignored by
nurses when she pleaded with them to take her baby, she then started throwing
up and almost dropped her baby thankfully the woman next to her took her baby
before that happened, every mom and baby is different and personally as much as
I didn’t feel the need or desire for nursery care I do not feel it is something
that should be all together taken away, I think it should be allowed however if
the mom continues to ask then she should be told no more or should be referred
to her doctor as to why she is requesting constant help, maybe it is a case of post-partum
blues, maybe there is something else she is feeling unwell maybe something was
missed?
What do you think, do you think
they should be doing away with it all together, did you make use of the nursery
yourself?
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