The blame game- schools and adhd

Recently there have been many posts on social media doing the rounds whereby schools and teachers are given the blame for the rise of adhd/ add in the classrooms, these posts piss me off I will be blunt about it, whilst I know and understand that there are teachers and parents who take advantage or try to put children onto these medications who do not need it there are so many amazing and wonderful schools and teachers out there who only want to help and do what is best for the kids in their care.

I think people forget so easily that our children are left in the care of these teachers for a much longer period than we spend with them most days, that aside if you take into account the amount of chemicals, hormones and additives in our foods and environment today it is no wonder that anything related to foetal development is affected to a greater point than it was in previous years, we as moms unknowingly or naively expose our unborn children to these things on a daily basis throughout our pregnancies, and honestly it is not our fault it is the world and the times that we live in and quite honestly you can do all the research you want eat well etc but there are certain factors in our environment that just cannot be avoided.  Also taking into account that our schooling systems have changed, class numbers have increased workloads have increased but that is not the fault of the teacher they are only doing their job, in older days children who were deemed unruly or unmanageable often dropped out of school were shipped off to reform schools or were even beaten into submission, it is no longer like that today thanks in part largely to a better understanding of mental health and the availability and understanding of therapy and medication, whilst in previous centuries therapy was a very wishy washy science frowned upon by many today it is more widely accepted as more and more people are forced or need to seek it in order to deal with their issues or circumstance related illnesses and problems.

I got a bit off topic but my point of this post was related to our school meetings on Monday whereby we met with one of the wonderful teachers who help Gabriel with extra lessons.

Gabriel does struggle he is more along the attention side than the hyperactivity side of adhd he is a dreamer with a very active imagination and gets distracted into his own mind so easily but that is who he is and its one of the many things we so cherish about his personality.

Anyhoo so the teacher asked what meds he is on and since he is not on Concerta or Ritalin she asked if we had considered it, we both said no and her response was one that only asserted my pride in the school that we chose, she basically said no problem that is your choice as parents and we will not bring it up again, perhaps look at a natural supplement omegas and such and that was it.  I am grateful that the teacher asked and took interest but I am more grateful that she took our opinions as his parents as the end of it, she didn't force the issue she merely made a suggestion based on experience (her own child is adhd) and took to heart our concerns and what we felt was best.

People are so quick to place blame autism and vaccines, c sections and lack of woman’s empowerment, formula and developmental delays, teacher/school structures and adhd… it’s time to stop laying the blame on all and sundry and just accept that our environment and circumstances have changed, children especially are more greatly affected by that which surrounds them and instead of passing the blame we need to take what we have and work with it and through it, teachers make mistakes, people make mistakes and if someone feels incredibly strongly about a teacher or doctor being wrong, then seek a 2^nd opinion, get a full and proper assessment done with someone you trust, do your research, try the natural methods, change their diet do everything you can because every child is different and what works for one may not work for another.

We have had bad experiences with teachers and schools before but it does not help to lay blame and harper on what was, it doesn’t help anything.  I could not have picked a better school for the boys than the one they are in now, the compassion love and understanding is clear each and every time we speak to a teacher or walk into their school and I am incredibly grateful for all their support so far.