I’ve been seeing so many posts
lately that entail woman validating their c sections and how it isn’t taking
the easy way out the whole spiel, now as a ceaser mom myself I think it is
great that woman who have had c sections whether by choice or not are standing
up for themselves and are saying you know what I gave birth too it wasn’t easy
and it doesn’t make me less of a woman than someone who had natural birth but
what I cannot understand is why and when giving birth became about validating
the pain and process you endured and how that makes it any better or validates
an equality to another birthing choice.
Your baby doesn’t know or care
whether they were birthed at home, in a birthing centre, hospital or theatre
room, all they know is they were warm and cozy and safe and now they have come
into a complete different space and environment with their mom to give them
love and care, it really comes down to mom and how she feels within the space, personally
the idea of a home birth scares the shit out of me but I have had several
friends birth at home and who had wonderful experiences, after several
miscarriages I was terrified of birthing outside of a hospital and believed
that a c section was in the best interest of my children I also never had the
desire to give natural birth I just didn’t want to and that was my choice just
like a home birth, or un-medicated, medicated natural birth will be the choice preferred
or believed to be the best by someone else.
I just wish that woman would stop
trying to validate their choices due to shame and judgment and would just stand
together as one stop shaming each other and start lifting each other up and say
you know what great job on that c section or wow an un medicated birth well
done, encouragement and compassion goes so much further than shame and dragging
someone down, and the truth is if we start doing this society ideals will
change and when that happens woman will no longer have to fear or feel shamed
because of their birthing choice or a birth that was out of their hands because
birth is birth one way or another your baby needs to come into this world and
as long as they are safe and here that is what matters most.
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